Yeah, it stinks but there's nothing I can do about the past. I can only change my future.

And right now I have zero contact with my H and I don't know what to do. We live in different states, we don't have children or anything to discuss so there's no reason for us to call each other. We have no mutual friends so there's really no way for him to even know I am making changes. As a WAW, I've been ignoring him for years so continuing to be distant, dark, or GAL just isn't going to win him over.

Not sure what to do.

Me: 44
H: 48
M: 4 yrs
My EA: 2010 & 2012
Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11
H left 1st time: 10/28/11
Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11
H left 2nd time: 12/23/12
Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8