LJC, Keep up with the program. ILYBNILWY (something I've been saying to my H for years) is a reflection of how much the person is dissatisfied with their life, with their self. It's a cop out and the WAS has poor communication skills and lacks the ability to say "I don't like me. I want to change myself." Instead they blame the spouse.
Keep posting. Maybe you can read my sitch and provide feedback for me also.
WOW is all i can think of saying here. what you said just seems so very true with my WAW. It has been almost 1 year for me now and I still struggle. But there are alot of times I just feel so bad for her. She left me and to this day we have not talked too much. I think she feels guilt but i can not say for sure. I also have no idea if she has OM or OW for that matter. She says we will talk but never does. I try to help she does not like it. i truly think what you said is so true she just can not be honest and say "i dont like me" and "i need to change". all her blame and anger always comes to me and it is my fault even for things i was not there to do the past year. just made me feel like i was not alone . But i do sure feel very lonely but still legally married so i will not can not go against that
