Originally Posted By: Tallula
Originally Posted By: jzoom
My friend told me today her and ex were texting for the next few days after that and nothing came up. My friend then tells me that on Sun or Mon ex texts her out of the blue saying how I'm begging her & kids to come back and be a family but things are going well between her and OM. My friend just said "alright" and didn't hear anything else from ex.

Thing is, after the backslide on Tue I haven't said anything else along that line. My friend and I think she's probing for info and my friend said that her talking about OM never has seemed authentic.


This is just my opinion, but why is your friend telling you this stuff? I think it will just destroy your POM and your are just guessing at what she is doing/thinking. Trust me, I get it. My best friend is married to my H's best friend. A few weeks ago I had to set a boundry that she couldn't talk to her H about it, because she would then tell me stuff like "Your H isn't telling everyone everything?!" blah, blah. It was killing my POM, then the 2 of us would speculate as to what my H is thinking and you can't rationalize crazy! Again, it's just my opinion, but it's helped alot!


You've got a point that I've been fighting myself about. I've brought it upon myself b/c I had told my friend I couldn't get depressed from it, but I'm starting to believe I was wrong about that. Also, I don't have many ppl outside of the online community who really know what's going on from my perspective.

So a lot of times I'm telling my friend stuff to get it off my chest and we talk through scenarios. Trying to keep me focused on DBing correctly. Just today when we were wrapping up our conversation she told me that all of this is upsetting her emotionally as well. She said she might talk to me in a calm way but it is really bothering her. Before she would have told my ex that I really did want her back to be a family and that we are good together, ect, but KNEW I haven't been begging my ex so that's why she just said "alright".

Yeah, the speculating! We were talking about how my ex might be trying to check up on me but is running out of resources. She isn't getting anything from my Facebook, I'm not begging and chasing her, sent her friends in and they couldn't get any info, and then tried my friend and couldn't get any info.

But yeah, it does take its toll on PMA. I need to do my part and not ask my friend for any info and just GAL as much as I can.


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