A New Beginning - after 2 years...

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Acc - thanks for stopping by. You have such clarity to analyze situations and have a very keen insight about human behavior. I appreciate your words very much.

Yes, it's not easy being a single mom. That has been another humbling lesson for me with all of this. As a working professional, I admit I undervalued the work that stay at home moms performed. I now have a completely new appreciation for it and can see this new perspective as another gift uncovered with this whole D fiasco.

Acc - I have been giving a lot of thought to what you said to me about lacking some meaningful connections with other adults and I think you are 100% correct. I need to make the time to incorporate that into my life.

Yes, my current situation has many limitations, so up until now I have looked for ways to connect and GAL within my current reality. I cannot spend much money, so I am looking for cheap and free ways to GAL.

I am volunteering my parish by doing data entry work from home at night. Not very social, but helps me do something for others and focus on something other than my own sitch.

I belong to a group of Mom's with young children. It's free and we meet for fun activities not dealing with kids. Tomorrow night we are all going out for drinks, which should be fun.

I make it a goal to go see at least one friend and spend time with my parents at least once a week and I have done pretty well so far. With friends I am trying to incorporate activities like hiking, going to an exhibit or visit a new place around the city rather than just go for a meal or a coffee or a drink.

I got a free 10-day pass to my former gym and I am going to use those sessions to attend yoga classes and go swimming.



Finally, I plan at least one new GAL activity with the kids each week. Last week I took them to our County's Museum of Art on a free museum day and we had a blast.

This afternoon we have a play date at the local park and tomorrow we are planning a singing and dancing show for the grandparents, so we have to build our stage and practice our song.

Next on the list is tennis. I love playing tennis and it's something I gave up when I met H because he doesn't like playing, so now it's time to get back to it.

Anyways, I know it's not much, but that is pretty much all the bandwidth I currently have.

I have been busy the last few weeks filling out applications and financial aid forms for D5's Kindergarten for this coming Fall. By then my financial sitch will be stable (one way or another) and I am moving forward with the assumption that things will be ok. I think I have only one more form left to deal with.

I am also starting to deal with D stuff and I am trying to really sort out my financial sitch which is complicated and my H has not made it any easier on me by limiting my access to certain info since he left. I need to meet with a financial advisor before I meet with my L.

We also jointly own an income property with my parents and I need to meet with a Real Estate Lawyer to figure out a way to dissolve that partnership and see if we can buy H out now or in the future...

Yes - life is complicated, but I know things will sort themselves out.

Thanks again, Accuray.