I'm not sure what phase we've entered, but my W is acting with more anger and agitation. Maybe it's because she really wants to leave but can't until the tenants have moved out of her parents' rental house...I don't know.
She is barely sleeping at night...tossing and turning, making long sighing sounds, getting up and coming back to bed. Without pressuring too much, I try to gently ask if she wants to talk about something, or tell me what is bothering her, but she keeps telling me "nothing". I make sure she knows that I am there if she needs to get something off her chest, but she never responds. That's OK, as long as she hears me say it. Some nights she rolls into my arms and I hold her for as long as she wants to stay there, but then the agitation comes again at some point and she goes back to tossing and turning.
I notice the same agitation throughout the day: she starts tapping her foot or moving her leg over and over and over AND OVER....I try the same thing about gently asking if she wants to talk about something, but she always says "no". I put my arm around her and gently stroke her hair or something comforting, and she stays a while but always leaves to do something else.
Inside I desperately want to know if my behavior is causing her so much anxiety that she is having some sort of breakdown...but that is just me trying to take on too much of a role in her feelings. I mean, I really do care about her health, and it seems she is clearly out of sorts. She is about 3 weeks into taking AD's, and feedback from her is generally positive about how it's helping her cope right now, so I doubt it is a reaction to the pills.
I still have a tendency to want to fix things. I don't like the idea that she might be driving herself crazy because she wants to leave but can't, but what can I do about it? I'm looking for a behavior to do a 180 on, but I'm not finding any, unless I need to change from quiet, empathetic and helpful to the opposite. That doesn't seem right either.
