W will do what she wants. Time for ME and D3 !!

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AS, I would like clarify the meds point. Laurie asked me if anything unusual had happened within the months leading to BD. So I mentioned the meds. Also that bipolar disorder runs heavily in W family. Laurie ignored it initially.

Then when she asked about marriage status of my parents and W parents, I told her MIL was a WAW herself and later diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I told her ever since BD,.MIL was the one that keeps telling me it's the meds, I bet you my daughter is bi polar, i'm going to tell her to go to second opinion with a different therapist.

I learned in the first few days after BD that me suggesting to W it's her meds was not going well at all because like you said she took it as me blaming her and not me. I back tracked from that quickly and made sure she knew I was sorry for my part in the failure, and that I am working on fixing my faults for future R.

I will not go near that subject with wife again. But MIL is dead set on getting her in to see HER therapist. I will leave that to mother daughter family.

The reason W actions seemed odd to laurie is that she didn't mention unhappy M to therapist, mentioned second child shortly before, and then BD after meds, and family history. She just thought if there is a way to rule that out, then we should try to.

Also that W is not exhibiting so much anger towards me which is usually typical, so perhaps meds are suppressing that anger.

So any ideas of how to work a light touch into the mix? I haven't tried to touch her inin 2 months, except for the neck rub. I am lost.

I saw on someone elses thread who had a similar sitch, their coach even suggested a huh! Laurie made it clear it should only be light touch and only if W asks or seems to be in the right mood. I have to use my judgment on when that is.