Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
Sunny, while I was typing my response you posted...so I have a few more questions.
1) What state are you in? 2) When you say everything is mandated...what does that mean? 3) No fault state or fault state Oh...one more comment....do NOT allow HER to RUSH YOU. YOu take your time and think thing through. She wants out to be with OM, well she can pack up and leave today. Her needs are NOT your problem or issue anymore. Eric

Actually I am rushing her -- LOL --- she is getting residence I will see SUNNY JR one night a week for dinner and do to my work schedule I will get him every other Saturday night and pick drop him off Sunday night. She gets 17% of my salaries for child support thats mandated. We sell the house pay off our credit card debt and split the proceeds - we split our 401k's pretty much simple stuff really. I think one of the reasons I stayed in this sitch so long was my guilty of being such a selfish controlling husband but I know I really stepped up to the plate and did as well as I could - for 24 months is the best I can do she must be on the 5 year MLC she is deep in the tunnel and I can't be the best me living with her.
T squared the ONLY regret I have is not keeping this affair thing to myslef - we had an arguement on Tuesday night about dating with my son in the house and guess what - she ran out the door and into his arms -- so I should have kept the info cloase to the vest - maybe the affair would have ended and she would have seen something - don't know - the thing is me getting angry and saying get a lawyer made it happen immediately - I didn't take time to think it through - and that is a problem for me as a person - it's a weakness and
I gave into it - I tend to make things huge in my head and go over them again and again.

Now we go forward all hope and prayers - trusing in the bigman up there and I can' not tell you ALL what your love - support and words have done for me -

Much Much Love,

Sunny

If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it.
I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!