the best way to save the marriage would have been to ignore it.
Just thinking on this...here are my reasons to ignore (as much as possible) W's affair behavior: -For my own mental health -To keep to the high road -To not push them to the OP -To allow time for the OP to show their true colors -Take some of the "forbidden excitement" out -To confuse them <evil grin> lol -Then maybe, maybe, it just might help save the marriage
I am sure there are other reasons...
Just philosophizing here...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm