Separated, in different states....

[Lampstand]

Some other bits of info that I think come into play here are that whenever I would throw H out I would feel a sense of pride in myself and would kind of "brag" about it to my mother and sister to gain their approval. Which I always get because they both hate men and always approve of me dumping someone.

The other thing is that I had a in-depth psychological profile done on myself last year and I am a "promoter" and when that personality is under stress the person creates "incidence" to relieve the tension. Some people may call it "drama" but that's not exactly the same thing. Incidence is not the same thing as trying to get attention, rather it's an attempt to create "action" and also to push others away that the person perceives as being the cause of the tension. This would fit my MO.

The MC we were working with suggested that when I feel stressed I need a plan to deal with it constructively. I never got around to it so I am still repeating the same pattern.

For me, the C suggested risky or adventurous activities to relieve stress. Things like skydiving or rock climbing would fit the bill but I have no interest. I guess I really need to look into this more closely.