Originally Posted By: TSquared2
Hi Hopper, My W went through her cycles and "reasons", when one reason wasn't "it", she found another, and another until she exhausted all the cheeseless tunnels and was left with the mirror... When she was playing multiple men, some of which became EAs, maybe PAs (still don't know for sure) it was a big drug, had to have/do more to maintain the ego "high". She was special for once (in her mind) and she was flying high...maybe some of this is at play with your H? Got 3 stringing along, he's a "player"? Know what I mean? Then the OMs showed their true colors, W couldn't maintain the high nergy level required to keep the high going and fighting off those barely conscious nagging feelings she was running from...
I say give it time, he will probably exhaust himself, then maybe the real issue will dawn on him... but then some don't, they just keep running and hiding, making new reasons up as they go.
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It's odd how things change so drastically in so little time. The more I pull away the farther down the rabbit hole he goes from who he was and what he stood for.
Yes, I believe it is a necessary part of the process, they have to go as far down the rabbit hole as they need to find their core issues...kinda like raising teenagers, sometimes you just have to pull back and let them find their own limits, let reality bite back, let them struggle and through this pain, something is truly learned, resolved within.

Oh man, do things change drastically and quickly...there were times with W when they changed hourly...lol. Best thing you can do is lovingly detach as much as possible, watch like a scientist studying an alien planet, and take notes for when you have teenagers in bloom... laugh Hang in there!! :)T^2


Listen to T2 I didn't now I will be divorced in a matter of months if I just kept my mouth shut and let her have her affair - do what she needed to do - do what I needed to do - I wouldn't be getting divorced right now - all I did was prove I am the same medling fool I always was.

Sunny

If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it.
I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!