How to make it work again?

[hopefulinga]

ss, it's nice to see that you and your H are working on the M and are able to talk about it. I hope that one day I can get to that point. Are you talking about your issues now more than pre-BD? Do you feel like the conversations are different?

I think you are doing a good job with your boundary issue and I would feel the same. We went through something similar with H's brother. He is a drug addict and H was putting up hotel money, bailed him out of bad check charges to the tune of $1500, etc. It flew all over me and caused us some problems and arguments. H finally had to get to the point where he realized that he couldn't help someone that didn't want to help himself. It took him ODing and lying to H to get to that point.

It sounds like for now, the money issue is resolved. However, I understand how sensitive of an issue it is for you and why you have trust issues surrounding it.