I've not been contacting H at all via email or phone, unless specifically regarding the kids.
I give H space when he is here w boys w me (mostly).
Talk is almost exclusively about boys. No R talk.
I can't say I'm always bright & cheery, but I try to be as positive and nice as possible.
NO CHANGES FROM HIM AT ALL...so, any suggestions about what I could do differently???? Show up on his doorstep in a teddy w a bottle of wine? Send him a sexually explicit email? LOL! Or, completely shut him down & try to go dimmer/dark?
I need some advice...how do I compete w OW who is still on his golden pedestal?
I have to be honest here, it's been almost a year since I've 'been with' my wife, so just reading your teddy plan sounded like a pretty good idea to me. lol Unfortunately, I don't think your H is in a place where it will work on him. He will see it as desperation, and probably be repulsed by you throwing yourself at him in that way.
I've gone long periods without seeing any changes from my wife. I still feel like nothing I do makes any difference. That's how it is when they are in MLC mode.
I know you were probably half kidding, but considering the way he's disrespecting you, do you really want to reward his behavior with sex? You're worth much more than that.
Keep DB and be proud of yourself.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
