Today we had our first FC session which started as C talking to both my H & I (w/o boys). She asked about our sitch. No new news or surprised from H (thank God). Then she talked to all 3 boys together just to meet them.
She said she thought S9 was definitely very bright (concerned his age & his understanding of our sitch). She asked boys why they thought their dad left S13 said "Because of G-ma dying." I was shocked this is what he thought, but it made sense b/c H left a few months after she passed.
She suggested meeting w each of the boys separately b/c of their ages & their different reactions to our S. I am okay w that. S13 wanted to know if he had to go back (as he doesn't feel like he needs any C).
C did say to me that she thought it must be hard to have H visit the house when I'm there. I agreed. H didn't react to my answer or her question.
When I got home w boys this evening S9 was sad and was very clingy. He didn't want to call his dad a bedtime as is the usual routine now. He cried and asked why dad doesn't want to live w us any more. I assured him his dad loves him very much & his moving out has nothing to do w him or his brothers. I was honest & said, "Daddy doesn't think he loves me any more, so he's not happy living here b/c of that." He doesn't understand. Neither do I, really.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
