BF,

Thanks for reminding us about baby steps. I'm a horribly b&w person and tend to only deal in absolutes so the philosophy of small changes is new to me.

But it should be less stressful because now I know I don't have to do everything all at once.

Me: 44
H: 48
M: 4 yrs
My EA: 2010 & 2012
Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11
H left 1st time: 10/28/11
Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11
H left 2nd time: 12/23/12
Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8