No offense, but as you know I've followed your sitch a long time, and it seems to me like your wife simply "tagged" you with sex, in order to keep you in place until she can figure out what she wants to do with you. Plate-spinning.
I felt that when you posted last week, and then even moreso now that I read what you just posted above.
I think you're going to have to upset the applecart here to get her off the dime, unless you are willing to just be the fallback guy.