Tori, thanks again for your insights. I’ve done a lot of work on myself and do feel differently about myself and life in general. I feel very confident about where I’m in life and I know I will be happy no matter what.
My sitch is stuck because I’m maintaining my distance and no NC rule. This is not hard at all, I feel better this way. But, he also doesn’t initiate any contact, unless for business. I have e-mail exchange with our common friend in that little town where he lives now, and I’m sure she gives him little snippets of information about me. I don’t know when my next interaction with H is going to be, probably in the next couple of weeks. He will have to go to work to another state at some point and I’m sure he will be stopping by our house. The weird part is that he stayed at his brother’s last time he was here, but all his belongings are still in the house, including all his clothes.
I think that new element in my sitch is going to be when I open my own company to handle my contracts and stop putting money into our business. I’m also thinking to separate our money and ask him to start contributing his half to pay all common bills. Right now we still have joint accounts and joint business, and I pay all bills while he is vacationing. Last time when we had R conversation he said that he wanted to maintain it this way until we can discuss further. So far he didn’t show any desire to discuss this. It looks like he is just going with the flow at the moment and enjoying his time at his favorite stop – our vacation place, and with his favorite friends (our common friends.)
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
