Crimson........Winds of change blowing???

[bustorama]

So glad to see these developments, Crimson. Keep living in and enjoying your current reality. Always. Have faith in the attachment between you, and nurture it lovingly, especially when she approaches you.

She has said she wants to work not only on the family, but on the two of you, right? If so, then it is fine to initiate contact, etc with her, because she has said it is what she wants -- an R with you.

I'm with Bond -- don't overdrive the piecing bus. Be ready to lead where she hints/points you (if that makes sense). In the words of Coach on here before, listen closely to her "catspeak," and lead based on it.

In general, go for some new experiences as you piece. Fun things to make new memories with. And not only with the boy (the more without your S, the better -- though don't force it).

If you sense her showing hesitation or uncertainty about piecing at any point, back off. She may feel scared or worry that her feelings aren't quite where she wants them to be, etc. That's all fine, let her be, and let her re-initiate leading at the pace that works for her. At one point with my W, I had backed off completely again and stopped calling her because she said it just felt so strange and weird (cause I had come on a little too strong at one point). She called me back in a couple of weeks saying, "What you're just giving up? Please make a counseling appointment for us. Give me a chance at least! Don't leave me!"

If you bring up Retrouvaille and she is not enthusiastic about it, do not interpret it that she is unenthusiastic about piecing. My W did not want to do Retrouvaille -- was not her cup of tea. Was enthusiastic about other stuff.

And another wise thing said to me -- don't forget to keep living your life and being the great Crimson in other phases of your life.