Since I started DB-ing early Nov, I haven’t told/showed my H my feelings AT ALL and I don’t know if I’m doing this right.
I haven’t simply because I did not want to smother him with my emotions and wanted him to have his time and space.
You're doing it right. It is important to share feelings in a healthy marriage, but in a broken marriage the LBS needs to conceal their emotions while trying to get the WAS to open up about theirs. The LBS needs to act "as if" everything is fine and always display a PMA.
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Of course I don’t want to tell him that I will be waiting but I wonder if I should let him know that this (D or S) is not what I want but I’m supporting your decisions (moving out) because I know it’s taking a toll on both of us.
I kept wondering this same exact thing, after months of DB'ing and not talking about the R I was concerned that W might misinterpret that as meaning I wasn't interested in the R anymore. So I did mention it to her, but it didn't make a difference. She was still confused, didn't know what she wanted, blah blah blah. So it's up to you, but I imagine he still knows.
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Because I try to look content at home I often wonder if he’s thinking if I’ve moved on or if I want to move on with my life w/o him.
Actually most of the old timers here will tell you that the WAS needs to think they might lose the LBS before they'll seriously reconsider what they're doing. So even if he does think that, it's not a bad thing for him to think.
