This thread has motivated me to remove my H from my chat list so that I can no longer see when he's online. Now only he can see me and if he wants to talk to me he has to reach out. I think this will go a long way in getting my head focused on my life and off of him.
Me: 44 H: 48 M: 4 yrs My EA: 2010 & 2012 Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11 H left 1st time: 10/28/11 Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11 H left 2nd time: 12/23/12 Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8