When my emotions are flying out of control I'm just doing all I can not to backslide with her, which seems to be ranting and arguing on here.
Ranting on here is fine. DO NOT do it with her or anyone else invloved in your sitch. However, you really need to work on the "arguing". Arguing implies your know what you're doing. If that is the case, why are you here? Arguing, ranting and fighting are guranteed routes to drive your GF away, like PRONTO. Your relationship has moved past the reasoning and negotiating stage. TODAY, you need to do nothing but Validate her, bite your lip, shut you mouth and LISTEN to what she is saying.
Originally Posted By: jzoom
As for what I had to text her today, it was about money she owes me and agreed to pay me...especially since this is in a timeframe when she says we weren't together. She's trying to give me some excuses but I'm holding her to it. I feel like an a-hole but I know I can't back down on it.
Why can't you back down? Do you really need the money back or are you simlply using it as a leveraging tool? Are you using it as an excuse to text her and engage her on something, anything? Are you just trying to lash out and hurt her? Take a minute and ask yourself, "is fighting over this money going to help me get my GF back or just add additional conflict between us". Is the money more important than the relationship? Granted, I don't know how much money or what kind of circumstances are invloved with it. Only you can decide if it's worth fighting over, but make sure you do it for the right reasons.
