Moving Forward

[scaredsilly]

I think you just expressed yourself very well. I can see how she thought your comments to her when she was yelling at your S could be taken as you overruling her and shaming her in front of the kids.

That being said, I think you and your kids have a right not to be yelled at. It makes people uncomfortable and/ or scared, especially, kids.

It might help if you let her know how her yelling makes you FEEL. She may not understand the true effect it has on you. She may not understand what your fears are about the effects her yelling and impatience may have on the mental health of your children.

Sometimes it's easier to say these things in writing so you can make sure there's no blaming. I think you write well.