Seems to me that if that's everybodys advice these days why bother with calling this Divorce Busting, why try to stay together, why not everybody just get the mentality of "move on"? If that's truly the case for DBing, to just make yourself a better person and "move on" under the guise of saving your R, then it is very deceiving.
Well, DB'ing is all about saving your R by removing the focus from your GF and putting the focus on the only thing you have control over- yourself. Make yourself the better option, the BF only a fool would leave. The more we focus on our spouse the more it drives them away and the more it prevents us from addressing our own problems that need solving.
A lot of people think that because DB'ing is about putting the focus on ourselves that it is somehow ignoring the M, but that's not the case. If you blossom and bear fruit as an individual, this is what may draw the WAS back. By focusing on yourself you in turn repair the R. That's what "it takes one to tango" means.
Now there is the side benefit about DB'ing that is worth mentioning- that when you make yourself a better person then you win whether your GF comes back or not. That doesn't mean DB'ing is anti-R, it's only a statement that there are no guarantees in life. If you truly detach, GAL and make yourself the strong, independent person that DB'ing teaches, then you WILL arrive at the point that you KNOW you will be fine with or without your GF. THAT is the goal. Often the LBS has to get to that point before the WAS realizes what they're missing.
