I know how you feel. It's been so hard for me as well. I just want to go home and work things out with my husband. It's been 5 months and no real promise of getting back together. It hurts like hell!!
Same here 3 months in. I understand what Zoom is saying and whether we like it or not we're not wired the same way. I know my W like the back of my hand and I know she will take the easy option instead of realising/noticing the changes in me and that makes me sad because then I wished I'd have done some of the things Zoom is talking about, reaching out etc etc. I get DBing to and Im following the path religiously but blimy this no contacting, reaching out business is as hard!
M - 37 W - 35 T - 11 M - 5.5 SD13 D10 S4 ILYBINILWY 15 Oct '12 Moved out 7 Dec 12 At present - Being the best dad i can be.
