Thanks, suckerpunch. I suppose we didn't know that when we married we also married everyone else and their opinions matter so greatly lol. But I do try to avoid in depth conversations.
That is a good analogy about detaching. I'm trying.
This morning my resentment regarding the entire situation is just really high. One of those days when I'm just tired of being the responsible one for everything. Yesterday he needs new boots, mentions saving for a laptop (that ones all on you buddy, we have a laptop here at home, if you lived here you could use it), today he needs a new phone. I was able to control myself and not make comments. But thinking - he is playing 2 paying gigs this week, why can't he use that? I have a little side job and rarely keep that extra money to myself - in fact, I bought his Christmas and recently some clothes with it. And use it to pay down our massive credit card. The laptop comment came just after I reduced the cable bill to save $50/month and was talking about ways to save on groceries - so sure, I just saved money, you should certainly go spend it - but I was proud of myself for not letting my comments fly!
And also he is sick and is back on the kick about how he needs to have tonsil surgery. So go do it! I'm not a morning person but try to be in a good mood and here comes Mr Gloomy first thing in the morning complaining. A little venting helps sometimes.....
