Angel, thank you for the insight! Our presenters also mentioned that things would seem hopeless at times and they encouraged everyone to go to all the followups because all the tools they're giving don't really "pull together" until the end. W did say that she felt like she wasn't getting much out of it, but she remembered them saying that, so I think she wants to keep going but has mixed emotions about it. She did call and asked me to come by her house for the dialog session last night which I did. It was late and we were both really tired, so I didn't try to push her into a discussion about whether she is committed to going through all the sessions or not. One day at a time.
SS, thanks, good point about the curvy road, LOL! I'm remaining detached and don't have any expectations about this saving our M. Seemed like W may have been having a change of heart, I've read about those overnight "conversions" of the WAS and gee, it sure would be nice to experience that, LOL! But realistically I think we're looking at additional weeks (or maybe months) before W decides whether or not to give it a chance. In the meantime I'm living my own life and staying detached.
Yesterday when I got home from work I found a note from S10 that he was running away from home. He did in fact leave the house. D16 found him next door and had to literally carry him back to my house. It turns out W had punished him for mouthing off to her (and using the F word) and told him he couldn't play video games or use his laptop. I sat him down and had a long discussion with him. It turns out he had also scratched himself intentionally with his fingernails. Not enough to draw blood, but it left red marks. I texted W and let her know what had happened and told her I suspect this had more to do with our marital problems than with the punishment (and I told her I did feel the punishment was appropriate for what he had done and I supported her on that). I told her I think he needs to go to C (insurance is through her employer). She agreed. When I was at her house later she disclosed that S10 often goes on screaming tirades at her. He normally doesn't cuss, but he tells her he hates her, that she's a bad mother, etc. etc. He apparently screams at the top of his lungs and she can't get a word in edgewise. I was honestly shocked, he NEVER does that around me and she's never mentioned to me before that he does it to her.
