Well... she talked to a lawyer and wants the divorce asap. I tried really hard to be a good listener and validate her concerns but when she started in about how much money she wanted and how she just wants the kids to be happy and for us (me) to give and give I started to get a little irritated. I still held my tongue for the most part and tried to keep my voice neutral.
Okay, so now you know what it was about....
Listen, I know how hard that was for you...
What I can tell you, is that just because she says it, and wants it, or feels entitled to it...
Doesn't make it reality...
One doesn't get things just because they feel entitled to them, nor will she get everything she wants just because she is angry, or done, or whatever the hell she feels that day....
Who says that you aren't just as entitled ???
My advice to you, is to feel the hurt from this. Let it creep into every facet of your being. Let it sting, let it burn, let the tears fall until they can't anymore.
Then bundle that up, and use that energy to do what is right, was is just, what is fair....
Use that to fuel your stand. Use that anger as a shield against her anger, and bitterness. Use that to dig deep within yourself to be a person that makes better choices everyday.
Use that as a shield, not as a sword.
Look at it this way Sub....
The worst has already happened for you. Everything rises up from this day forward....
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back on the Horse...
