Okay, so your next step is to validate her the next time she brings it up, say that although this is not what you would want for you and your family, you certainly won't stand in her way, if this is what she needs to do. Don't accelerate the process by helping out, but do not hinder either . Don't bring up D, you'd be surprised at how little some S's actually approach the subject after the initial "I want it now' talk. Continue exactly as you are DBing, and leave the arrangements to her.
Agree with VP...always love the "you never" statements lol!!
