After talking to my mom tonight I see that I really do need to give H some space. I need space too but I never see it for some reason. I need to look at why every 6 months or so I tell my H to leave. This is a pattern that has been in all my R's for 30 years! I didn't realize it until my mom pointed it out to me.

Well at least now I have something to work on specifically. The past few days I've been so focused on how to convince H to come home that I've not really been looking at my junk. I'm hurt that he hasn't contacted me at all. When we were together he was always texting, emailing, following me around the house......I guess I expected it to continue even after he left.


Me: 44
H: 48
M: 4 yrs
My EA: 2010 & 2012
Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11
H left 1st time: 10/28/11
Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11
H left 2nd time: 12/23/12
Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8