Wow, sucker! Thanks a bunch for giving me a positive twist on a 2x4. I needed it!
I agree, great point/list suckerpunch.
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I own my part in the failure of my M. I think I can pretty much pinpoint where I went wrong...
That's fine, but don't accept all the blame, he wasn't perfect either.
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I just feel like my H is so far gone in his head w OW that until he "lives his fantasy out" to find out it is just that--a fantasy, that he will not come back to me.
That may be, but you don't really know. They almost always have a little doubt about leaving us. Find out where his is and build on it.
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And so my 180s although have been noticed have not made any difference in H's actions since BD. In fact his words seem to be indicating he is moving further and further away.
Time to try something different. What do you have to lose?
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After 20 years together it is just so.....unreal. Sad.
Yes it is, and you'll kill yourself trying to figure out how he could throw it all away, so stop trying. Get busy on you, girl!
Where's that tough TG? Don't make me bust out the lumber.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
