GTO, sorry about the death of your mom's BF. Yes, things like these make you think.
In regard to the EA/PA, wait and see what happens. I told my H I would be done if he ever had a PA. He said he understood so he would never do it. He did it anyway. I found out. I thought I was done for about a day. Then I started to have second thoughts. So the lesson is that you never know how you're going to react until something finally happens.
