W will do what she wants. Time for ME and D3 !!

[25yearsmlc]

have at least 3 questions written in advance. Limit it to 6.

have a THUMBNAIL sketch of your marriage for the background history and let THEM ask you what they think is relevant. Length of marriage, educations of each, professions, kids age. ANY drinking/drugs and what the sex issues were AND whatever else SHE SAID, regardless of your opinion of her comments.

IMO, you tend to give far too much unhelpful detail, which will prevent you from HEARING THEIR words and that's what you need.

You need Their advice about what to do NOW, not WHY YOU THINK she did whatever, years ago, or what the past was, or your analysis and yada yada

WHat you think is relevant won't be the same to them.

be ready to take notes, AND to take it in. Ask them to clarify if you don't know what they mean and don't be selective in what you "hear" them say. Hear it all.

I took so many notes. Later I shortened some for my "mantras" and affirming little proverbs for me to be motivated. Eventually it was my own "list of <10 things to do" (and a few "not to do's)

It helps.

I ended up buying about 12=15 sessions and imo, it's why I'm still married.