25 when do I ask if ever why she decided to stay and not leave marriage.
I'm not someone who cares WHY they return. What matters is that WE do the work to repair & restore our marriage. I think the endless questions are, at best, fruitless, and at worse, hurtful.
You're looking to blame, imo, OR to find some sort of answer that you think will help you...but help you do what? Know something useful for "next time"? If there is a next time, the reason might not be relevant anyhow. WHy beat a dead horse?
What's the goal?
[/color] Like bond said it was so sudden. We just start looking at downsizing houses, planning another vacation and even ML etc Even with the positives I'm scared sh*tless .
Is this common?
yes it is common but, so what? I mean, who cares if it's common?-- YOU feel it. That's real. Don't act or make choices based on your fears.
That's my advice for you. Allay them if you can, but certainly stop letting your life be dictated by fear. It's never a good thing, imo.
And as I said earlier today, you'll be at EE soon enough. You'll have a lot to take in and it's NOT all about your wife. You have your own issues to work on and plenty of stuff in your sandbox to work on. The more you do that, the better example you'll set for HER.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
