My W was the same way before she moved out. We still did stuff together, got along great (better than before BD in fact) and were even ML. But she still moved out. So just enjoy it while he's there, but don't have any expectations that it means he's changing his mind, because he probably isn't yet.
Us too. We get along great, like you said better than before BD because I'm much calmer and loving. I constantly have to remind myself to not have any expectations. I think because he's stayed until now I was beginning to think he may have changed his mind. Boy I was wrong.
You are so right about how WAS won’t be convinced about our positive changes in just a couple of months. I feel like these changes have now become my nature he can trust them. However I can’t say I don’t ever slip back to old habits. The way I interact with my friends I’m totally comfortable with is very similar to how I interacted with my H. My sense of humor was (is) mix of sarcasm and anger, and people found it funny when I was irritable with my H. My H and I would insult(tease) each other on fb (as jokes) and people loved it. I loved it too that we share such a quirky sense of humor and he seemed to enjoy it too.
What I didn’t know was that while the dynamic we created worked great as friends but didn’t work for our M. We’ve lost romantic feelings for each other and therefore our sex life suffered. I was always looking for “romance” and I didn’t understand why he couldn’t be romantic with me.
Going back to what I was saying: I should always remind myself to be kind and loving while maintaining my sense of humor; otherwise I’m just a mean person lol.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
