Wow, have things changed

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Search your heart but from reading your thread I get the feeling you want to do this and are strong enough to stand your ground. Doing it at the MC sounds really good since there will be a 3rd party present to keep things on track.

I'd say write down your terms so that you won't forget them in the midst of everything with MC and him being there. Have you talked to MC about the terms? Could you go in alone first so that MC is on-board and can help you identify loopholes, then allow him in?

I think you're right not to bring up the text you did see, he'll then just be able to blame you for snooping and try and make everything seem like it's your fault. He will delete it and if he agrees to transparancy and you go for it you'll have to start with a clean slate. You can't bring up anything in the past, just go forward with a positive outlook.

If you go with this get the phone record and go over the numbers with him so you know who is who by number. Make a list and say for instance there is this last text you saw, he deleted it, the number is still recorded on the phone record/bill. Then you can track the record/bill for the number in case he deletes the text from her.

What I'm getting at is this. If he texts her outgoing you know he just violated his agreement with you. If she texted him incoming and he didn't respond, look at the phone. She might try to get in contact with him and he has no control over that, so he either needs to ignore the text and show you right away or respond with a "leave me alone" attitude and show you right away.

You also have to be firm on the "if it happens again there are no more chances" and stick to it. You've already gotten this far so that shouldn't be a problem. I think you can do this and if he agrees in front of the MC it's worth it IMHO. Make sure your terms include "subject to change" and always keep the mindset that he has to prove himself to you in this matter.

Hope you don't have a heart attack lol