We went through RetroV November 2011. Same experience....the emotion, the exhaustion, the tears.
H said he did not want to go to the posts, and I did not argue (just like you) but he was the one who in the end wanted to go. They were dependent a lot on the presenter, thats true, but in the end, there was always something you could pick up from each session.
But I think that there will always be some resistance to letting go of the OP, of the freedom. I thought after Retro that we would be OK but we still went through another low around 3 months later.
I heard the same story, even from our presenter, who said sometimes the worst times come after the weekend. Its as though the WAS still struggles with themselves, with letting go....even if they know what has to be done.
Right now we are piecing, but there are still many things we do not speak about. I firmly believe there will be a time and place for it.
YOu have gone this far, keep up with what you have been doing, and let your W work out her issues on her own. It seems like she is a good person, and that she is slowly coming around, albeit with backslides. I remember one poster once told me that in fairy tales, the princess always waits patiently for the monster to turn into a handsome prince. It cannot be overemphasized that patience is what is needed.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
