I'm not sure if you have read the books here or not. I didn't find a place where you say you have.
The books form the basis of this site's approach to solving marriage problems. READ IT.
There's no way you can get what you need out of this site without reading at least one of the books. You live where there are libraries? Bookstores?
Get the book and read it and you'll find yourself much guided and strengthened. But read the book!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016