Don't move out. She should be the one to leave the home since she's the one having the affair and can't seem to find herself.
I agree, especially since you just re-did the kitchen and all. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
You have to do what you need to do, SB...and DB isn't just for trying to restore your M, it's also for you and you going forward. Heck, I use DB with co-workers, bosses, customers...its a part of life now.
Hang in there for you and your son during this next phase! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
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