In terms of how I'm different, it's really night and day. I could see this going two ways in the old days. 1) I'd be yelling at everyone to get it done or 2) I'd let her take command and I'd sit on my ass. Now, I simply wanted her to ease up a bit and I was helping the entire time.
Oh, I didn't say that you haven't changed. I just wanted YOU to see it too..
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
I even boned that damn chicken for her while she was at work! :p
Careful there...if you start to itch, well....
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
One thing she said this morning sounded different. She said "people continue to change every day. I don't think we're the same people were were yesterday, or a year ago, etc." That's a long way from the "you can't change who you are" I used to hear.
She is changing BD, maybe not as fast as you would like her to, yet she is...
What appears to be happening, is that it isn't happening on YOUR time, and you are getting impatient.
And also, do not underestimate the power of the legal stuff on her mind. You say that you aren't concerned with it, yet you post about it almost daily....
How is that mindreading workin for ya ???
I know how hard it is with a live-in, I have lived that.
Stay consistent , and true to yourself.
That is the person that she will seek out through her hard times. Listen and validate when you can.
Ask her if she needs opinions ? or someone to just listen....???
Just be patient for now, and let things settle a bit. Be aware of these little things, and how they can set you back mentally. You have a pattern of that ( if you read back through your threads). So just let things "be" for now.
Remember, it doesn't have to be black of white. When it is time, it will be time for either to happen....
I went back recently, and re-read your bootcamp thread...
I highly suggest it, if you haven't for a while...
