A Life Filled With Grace

[needgrace]

Great posts, Val and Bug.

I too want to find forgiveness for W (and even OW) but am finding it difficult.

I find myself confused by both anger and forgiveness.

When I think I am feeling forgiving toward W, I find myself feeling more vulnerable and also missing her more. Perhaps what I am feeling is not true forgiveness, which should set her free, but a way to make allowances for her based on her past. I think my CO-D mucks it up.

When I feel angry, it is easier for me to separate myself from W, but then I don't feel good inside being angry.

My family was like yours Bug with a lot of emotional cut-off when people "hurt" us.

I hope that both of you will keep posting here. Val, I too have found that peace you describe with forgiving in so many other relationships and would like to find it with W.