There's something funny I've noticed about many of the online marriage forums, in particular some other well-known ones. It seems like there's a disproportionate number of people who have affairs, and are "in the fog" and are all caught up in their "love" and emotions and leave their spouse, only to come back, and be confused, and in turmoil, etc. etc. It's just an unbelievable amount of drama. But I hardly ever see mention of "friends with benefits", which is widely known and discussed in other contexts. Yeah, believe it or not, a lot of people in sexless marriages are having sex outside their marriage without any drama at all. Perhaps they're relatively happy about it and are not posting on forums. I guess it's only the people who are having huge emotional dramas around sex and love who are posting on these forums?!
It was "The Captain" or one of the other SSM posters, made the observation that once people get their sex life back in order that they move on from this place.
Posting to this place too often and reviewing it IS wallowing in self pity. At some time period, you have to get over it whether with or without your spouse.
Some of the spouses are withholding from you due to "bullying" you. Is that acceptable?
