I wonder if I should show him how we'd handle finances etc once he finds an apt so he can focus on finding an apartment... or am I helping him too much in my mind.. I like planning things! I can't help it
I'm the same way. When W decided to move out I did a spreadsheet for myself to figure out if I could even afford my house or not. I also did a spreadsheet of W's expenses. I did go over it with her to show her how tight things were going to get and suggested she might want to tighten her belt on extras because of it (and told her I was going to have to do the same). I don't see any harm in you figuring out the finances and sharing it with him, just don't expect him to change his mind if things are going to be tight, because the WAS is convinced they'll figure out how to make it work even if you show them they can't.
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Feeling down today. The more I read his email he sent me last week the more I'm convinced he is done and wants to move out.
Just remember, that's how he feels right NOW. He may very well change his mind later, so don't be discouraged by that.
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The hardest part is he doesn't look/act like it at home. My perception of "done with somebody" would be he/she would not even want to see each other, talk each other or have dinner together..
My W was the same way before she moved out. We still did stuff together, got along great (better than before BD in fact) and were even ML. But she still moved out. So just enjoy it while he's there, but don't have any expectations that it means he's changing his mind, because he probably isn't yet.
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If anyone has time to read my posts, please share your thoughts on LM. The literal 180 on that matter would be me initiating it but my H sleeps in a separate bedroom and I take the sign as "Don't even seduce me"
I wouldn't push for it, it sounds like he doesn't want that right now. Let him initiate it if he chooses to, but otherwise let it go.
