Yesterday I got some inexpensive gifts for the kids and they're on the dining room table with cards where ex-gf will clearly see them when she comes by the house again.
Not sure about that, she may perceive it as you trying to earn brownie points (pressure). If you want to see the kids then ask her if you can see them, if she allows it then ask her if it's OK to give them some small gifts when you see them. I think it would be less pressure on her and come off as more genuine.
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I'm having a really hard time not contacting her, not trying to convince her and the kids to start staying at the house again.
It's really tough in the beginning but it gets easier. Just stick with it. When you feel inclined to reach out to her, just remember all the other times you've done it (described in your first thread) and think about how it never helped at all. It won't help this time either. So don't do it. Focus on you. Work on you. Find stuff to do to get your mind off of her. Don't contact her, it'll just make you look needy (unattractive). You can do this!
