1) as far as the money for trip to OM "Hey can I have some money in case something happens?" Answer?
"No". If she asks why tell her you are done funding her trips to go participate in adultery. Don't be mean or angry, just matter-of-fact. EDIT TO ADD- just read 25's suggestion and I like hers more
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2) As far as the Divorce "Hey when are we going to file for the divorce?"
Don't ever bring it up yourself. If she brings it up then tell her "It's not what I want, but if you want to pursue it then that's your prerogative." But don't offer to help with it or do anything to move it along. Many WAS's will talk about D, but when it comes to actually filling out and submitting the paperwork they back down. Not always, but often.
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The more I back off, the more she engages.
Yep, that's usually how DB'ing works Just be careful not to go into pursuit mode, that'll drive her away again. Let her engage, just maintain some distance. Don't be cold or indifferent, just don't pursue.
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AnotherStander, you will be so proud of me!
You're right, I am proud of you That was textbook validation, nice work!
