When is your court date ??

It seems that she is gaining fuel to push away, and your lack of just listening/validating her , is allowing her to push some buttons on you....

Of course, you are the one that allows those buttons to be pushed...

You aren't always gonna like what she says, or how she parents the children. Yet, you are always gonna have to support her in HER decisions...

Maybe that is why she thinks you haven't changed ????

Did you always question her parenting decisions ???

How are you different now, as opposed to before with matters like this ???