Trying to move forward

[Dewayne]

Thanks SM34. I'll try to keep things in perspective. I have been living for me and I've been doing muuch better!

WoW! I can tel you this, since you already are ahead of the game. THe people on the AD's always seem to say that very thing! "I see things clearly now!" etc. "I like who I've become" sure, that's what the drugs are suppose to do, is take away the feelings.. why? Because that's what causes depression. "Feelings" are both good, and bad. They can't change "just feeling sad" they have to "blunt" all feelings to achieve the goal of "feeling sad" Can't fix the boat motor? It's ok, junk the boat and throw it away, you'll feel better. "Wow I feel so much better now that I don't have to fix that motor" but the kids begging to go river fishing are now hurting...

I know, crappy analogy but you get the point.

Point here is this SM! Seriously, you're definitely fighting a losing battle if your wife is on these things! They HAVE to come off the drug before you can make forward progress that's any positive. They're not thinking correctly.

My wife tonight threw a fit, started talking like we had been talking aboutt he relationship again and I was merely talking about board games! It was like someone froze time, removed her from a previous argument and put her azz right beside me and hit play! it's so unreal...

Mine's coming off, and I can start to see a little bit of herself come back.. (tiny bits)

Good luck to you and yours SM, you got a bigger fight I'm afraid of. This is more than just your relationship! Ohh, and for what it's worth, I've seen a HUGE pattern! LOTS of people are ok on the medicine (seemingly anyways) UNTIL the doctor upps the dosage! Then all he11 breaks loose. Heck, you've read the stories.

And yes, googling "marriages destroyed by ssri's" will get you that topix thread. There are MANY stories from both sides of the fence on that topic. It's heartbreaking man. And most of the time, it's within weeks to 6 months on average that ppl "flip"