W continues to live with OM - what to do?

[littleGTO]

HI, longrun,
Sorry you are here, but this is the best place you could have found for support.

Sounds like you are doing a lot of great 180s. Give yourself more time. Time for when you are back in your house. Then maybe you'll be around your W more for her to see your consistent changes.

Her A w OM is still rather new--even though you say it's been a year, they have only been living together for 5 months. Give it more time for the "infatuation" stage to wear off.

One thing--try not to put your kids in the middle of your R. Don't ask them to choose. You & your W need to work out what you think is best for them. They are too young to make that decision for themselves, nor should they ever be presented with the question "who would you rather...?" That forces them to choose sides which is not going to help your sitch.

Definitely keep DBing! Time will tell what the future will hold. DOn't try to predict it ahead of time.