Help/Advice needed please...

[Intact]

Please help - urgent...

I just found out she has been having an emotional affair that turned physical last night. Her mum also found out at the same time.

I'm devastated - please what do I do?

[labug]

Nothing.

What were you thinking you might do?

And how do you know this?

[Intact]

My friend saw her holding someone's hand at a shopping centre...

I don't really know what I thought I should do, but surely something?

[labug]

I wouldn't think holding hands advances anything to a PA.

About your next question, here is where you start making changes by not acting out of the emotion.

I would guess you're angry, hurt and you want to do something to take that feeling away. Often when we're hurt we lash out to hurt those who hurt us.

Instead think about whatever you might do, would that help you get closer to your goal?

Is a PA a deal breaker for you?

[Intact]

The PA may not be a deal breaker for me but all of the lies could well be as I'm not sure how I could trust her again.

She's coming over tomorrow to talk and I really don't know what to say... I do feel so so angry.

How on earth should I handle this?

[Intact]

^

[eyesopen]

Calm, cool, and collected. Just listen.

[Intact]

Calm, cool, and collected. Just listen.

Thank you - should I ask her about the OM?

[labug]

OM is really not your problem.

Just listen as eyesopen says and keep emotion out of it.

[Intact]

OM is really not your problem.

Just listen as eyesopen says and keep emotion out of it.

Ok thank you. I have packed some of her stuff up for her to try and fake it like I am ok wi this and moving on - is that the right thing too do? Sorry for all the questions but don't want to make any mistakes...

Thanks for your advice.