Why - so you could get advice that is not appropriate to your situation?
Look hon - take it from an older and wiser woman. I learned this lesson the hard way.
When my husband cheated on me early in our marriage, I took him back. I wanted him so badly that I wanted to believe it was just newlywed jitters on his part. I accepted his pleas of apology, I let him move back in, I didn't make him go to counseling. I thought everything would be fine.
Then I went on to make three beautiful children with him. Only to discover evidence of his new affair when they were preteens and young teens. I took the risk on staying with him, but my CHILDREN paid the price.
In retrospect, I should have called off the marriage at the very beginning. It was my own stubbornness and need that allowed me to ignore the HUGE RED FLAGS that were waving in my face.
You have a chance right now - before she gets pregnant with your child, before her kids get any more attached to you - to get out of a very bad situation with a woman with low morals and little common sense or empathy.
Take it.
Or at the very least - give yourself six months of no contact. If this is something so great that it's meant to be - she'll still be there in six months.
But you have a lot of work to do on yourself to find out why you would think such a situation is acceptable (and, frankly, why you let a woman with three kids move in with you so soon in a relationship - isn't her youngest just a year old? How long had you been dating before she moved in?)
