Quote:
You can't control who you love


This, right here, is a destructive idea.

Sure, you can't control who you find attractive and who you don't.

But if you find you're getting attracted to people who are BAD FOR YOU, you need to look inside and figure out why that is.

Women who had abusive fathers often get attracted to abusive men - should they just say "you can't control who you love" and plunge right in?

Don't you believe you could find another woman that you could love equally well who wouldn't be a DISHONEST CHEATER???