not sure where to go from here

[tiredndrained]

H went to a funeral yesterday for a friend's father that he didn't even know. Left at 9AM and didn't return home til 3AM. Didn't call him all day. He called me at 4PM and I asked if they wondered where I was since he didn't even ask me to go. He said they did but he told them I had to work. (I did have to work but if he would have asked me I would have called off but he never mentioned it so I ended up going to work). He said he didn't want me to come with him anyway. This morning I got really angry. I asked him where he was all night and he didn't answer. I don't want to live like this anymore. Even if things are getting better doing DBing, I still feel like not asking him what he is doing, allowing him to come and go all night is letting him get whatever he wants while I pick up the slack with the kids and family only benefits him. He was the cheater in the relationship, he caused our financial strains, he is the one running around every night. I never did anything to provoke him. He is in MLC, not me...Sorry to vent like this. I get so frustrated. This is so hard.